From Call Girl to Calling
How an inoperable tumor led to self-liberation
I’m asked all the time how I got into what I do for a living. The truth is, I created it from pure curiosity.
I have an unquenchable thirst for understanding human nature. I geek out on what motivates us, our deepest desires, our most paralyzing fears, and I hold no judgement of any of it.
From the time I was nineteen, I let my curiosity and intuition guide my career. Eventually, it lead me to help people become liberated.
Here’s the the 25 year story.
It’s spring of 1994 and I’m a super nerdy freshmen in college on academic scholarship that I received for being Valedictorian …and I drop out to work as a call girl.
That was the most powerful and liberating choice of my life.
As a teenager I was not allowed to date and I had zero experiences with boys, sex, or my own sexuality. I wasn’t even allowed to talk to boys on the phone.
My dad was just trying to keep me safe, I know that, but instead of trusting me to make good decisions he threatened punishment. Needless to say, I grew up with a lot of fear and shame around my body and sex.
Working as a call girl was an attempt at freedom…and power.
Working as a call girl was a way to disassociate from my feelings — thinking that I would feel in control of them, but it did the opposite.
Because I am an empath, I felt what my clients were feeling. That pain and confusion is what made me to want to help other people be free.
It wasn’t until much later that I discovered the hidden force that was dictating my decisions. I call this stealth operator the soul wound.
The most significant thing I learned as a call girl is that deep down we all have some form of sexual fear and shame and self-confidence issues.
Unless we heal these wounds they will continue to impact our decisions and unconsciously sabotage our lives.
And honestly, it’s because my 25 year “obsession” with understanding human nature that I also know what actually works to heal our shame, overcome our issues, and have loving satisfying relationships and kick-ass lives.
Locating and liberating the soul wound is the basis for my body of work today.
My path to being an intimacy expert and master coach originated during the call girl years, yet the massive transformation came when I got sick.
My health crisis was a life changing event.
In 2008 I developed a tumor on the nerve that goes from my brain stem to my tongue. I remember it like it was yesterday.
After biopsy results were unclear the ENT recommended surgery to be safe.
The surgery was also unproductive so the prognosis was to wait and watch.
In the first 3 years I watched the lump grow to the point where I was avoiding eye contact with people.
When this tumor showed up my life as I knew it was over. And I thought that was the worst thing that could happen. It turns out it was THE BEST.
Lumpy made me what to hide my face.
One day I was at the grocery store and I saw an attractive man coming toward me in the spice aisle. Immediately I turned my head and averted my eyes to avoid making contact or being seen.
As I strolled out of the spices I started to cry.
Making eye contact, connecting with people, winking at hot strangers — that’s my thing!
Instead I was avoiding any form of connection. I was totally dimming my light.
That’s when I knew I had to take a serious look at my thoughts about myself and what I really wanted for my life. I knew I didn’t want to keep hiding, but I was ashamed and I felt powerless to do anything about it.
The tumor caused me to confront all that.
So I got coaching. I devoured self-help and healing books from all the spiritual teachers, and I embarked on an intensive spiritual journey.
Over time and with masterful support, I came out on the other side of that crisis healed — mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
My soul wound, “I’m an ugly disgusting waste of time,” was the subconscious program at play. And I finally saw it.
I awakened to the truth of who I am, and more importantly what I’m here to do.
My confidence has never been more rock-solid and the source of it is firmly rooted within me. Not men. Not money. Not status.
No longer do I fear rejection or ridicule. No longer do I hide out or dim down.
My unique expertise was born from that unconventional path to understanding.
I’m in the business of LIBERATION…
I am here to show high profile people how to be FREE.
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